I would like to first begin with the disclaimer that I truly hate the fact that the media continues to discuss Chris Brown and Rihanna. I have personal had more than enough of discussing their “incident” and am fully ready for everyone to move on from this and allow them to heal. I however, have been more than disturbed by many of the comments that I continue to hear on this issue, especially the comments of young girls.
It seems there is now some consensus that since Rihanna was apparently upset about something that in some way she provoked the incident and is therefore somehow the one at fault. This absolutely outrages me!!!! I don’t care if she talked about his mother, called him a donkey, or told him he was “small”; it does not give him any license to beat her. In relationships, things sometimes get heated and conversations get heavy, but they cannot result in this type of violent beating. For our public to justify these actions by claiming she may have deserved it is completely insane.
Where is the line then drawn of what you can say that’s acceptable before you cross over to the “danger zone” where your partner is then allowed to beat the crap out of you? Is it to the man’s discretion? If you call him a liar its ok, but calling him a cheater gets you a beat down? Who sets these rules? Maybe we can just adopt the new law of Afghanistan while we are at it where if your wife denies you sex you have the right to stone her. How about that one?? If we can justify this, we sure are headed there.
None of this is acceptable. Please, let’s begin teaching our daughters, sisters, and neighbors what acceptable treatment is. Show them that they are entitled to be strong willed and have opinions. Do everything you can to make sure that they know they are not the property of a man and that they deserve to be treated with love and respect. Let’s help our sons, brothers, and friends to learn how to appropriately handle issues and confrontations. Domestic violence is a major issue in our communities and especially among young people. Statistically, one and three high school students have been or will be involved in an abusive relationship. This number is not only sad, but extremely alarming.
We have to consider how our comments are perceived. Domestic violence is no laughing matter. Under no circumstance is it ok to fight words or hurt feelings with violence. Please create awareness on this issue and do not feed it by sensationalizing and validating the actions of Chris Brown. Please people, STOP THE MADNESS!
Today’s “4 the Luv” Fab Find:
Today’s Fab Find is a hot pink flat from Nordstrom.com. It retails at the fabulous price of $59.95. It is the REPORT Ilana Flat. It’s perfect for adding a pop of color to your outfit while staying comfortable. Plus it’s my signature color. http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/3024341/0~2376778~2372808~2372904~2376184?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=2376184&P=1
Cheers!
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
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