I thought we would take this beautiful Thursday to have a brief discussion of the M word…Monogamy. According to the dictionary Monogamy is: mo⋅nog⋅a⋅my Spelled Pronunciation [muh-nog-uh-mee]
Use Monogamy in a Sentence
–noun
1. marriage with only one person at a time.
2. Zoology. the practice of having only one mate.
3. the practice of marrying only once during life.
After careful observation during my nights out, I am left questioning if it actual exists for my generation or can it all together be removed from the English dictionary? I time after time see people in relationships out flirting with people other than their spouses, am approached by married men, or see someone’s significant other leave and 5 minutes later they are snuggled up with someone else.
Has this type of behavior become acceptable? It now seems that monogamy may be the exception and possibly not the rule. Aside from marriage (I will always believe in the vows one makes before God), is it now understood that you may be dating multiple people at a time and because everyone is doing it it’s ok?
Let’s face it, this would never be a discussion in a relationship because everyone wants to believe that they are the one and only even though they may know they aren’t. It’s not as if you would come home and no babe I can’t tonight I have another date. But if you are both simply minding your own business and schedules does it now breathe different expectations to your relationship?
I spent my adult life as a serial monogamist focused on building perfect relationships. Now when I consider monogamy, I even consider jumping the fence. Is it possible it doesn’t make sense in dating to place all your “eggs in one basket”; as my grandmother would say? From personal experience when you spend your time building a relationship and the other person turns out to, put nicely, be a complete and utter disappointment is it better to just pull out another egg and keep it moving…Spread the love?
If in fact you take this approach to dating, are you then capable of creating a strong relationship with someone else? If you are used to dating multiple people then would it be difficult to turn the switch and suddenly become a monogamist for the right person? I am not sure that there is one rule to monogamy that all should follow, but I do think it makes for interesting conversation. Where do you stand on monogamy? Are you into one on one or do you prefer to play with a team?
Today’s “4 the Luv” Fab Find:
Today we have a Charles David turquoise and Brown patent platforma sandal. I love this color combo! Check them out on BlueFly for only $175!
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*Remember ladies, I am not in any way affiliated with this company or shoe. I am not endorsing the business, I am only admiring the shoe. It’s SOLEly for the luv!
Thursday, June 25, 2009
Thursday, June 11, 2009
Google Me
As an event planner, I plan many weddings. With each wedding I plan it seems that the crowd gets more and more interesting. It’s not the bride that makes the weddings unique, but the guests. However, with all of the differences there is one consistent theme through all weddings; that men single and married are there to meet women.
The past month I received my fair share of horrible male pick up lines. There are two however that are especially note worthy. The first being “Every wedding I attend I make it a point to go home with someone, I was thinking this wedding it should be you”. Do you think that line had worked on some poor female at a previous wedding? How much alcohol would you need to ingest to think that was cute? I am all about using a wedding as a great place to network and meet people, but REALLY! Where do men get off thinking that a line like that could actually work? Maybe if he had laughed after saying it we could have all thought it was funny and moved on, but to hold a straight face and wait for a response is completely ridiculous. I just wonder if the roles were reversed, and I walked up to him with a line like this would he have said “cool let’s get out of here” or would he have thought I was a complete moron?
If you are awaiting my response it was simply “Do you live in town?” He said “Yes”. I then said “Sorry, our only chance would have been if I knew I would never run into you again”. I however, do give him props for getting straight to the point! I do like a man that can cut straight to the chase.
The next weekend’s wedding got even better. Now there is much to be discussed about this wedding. It actually deserves its own posting…maybe tomorrow. Amongst many crazy comments, at this wedding the pickup line was a classic! “Why won’t you talk to me? I run a billion dollar company…Google me!” Google Me…is he serious? Unfortunately, he was very serious. He could not understand that despite his wife and kids at home that I would not be interested in him and if for nothing else the fact that he runs a billion dollar company. Why would you want a woman to talk to you solely for this reason? Is the real question you are asking me not “why won’t you talk to me”, but “why won’t you spend my money”? If Googling him was the deciding factor, then wouldn't in fact my only motivation be to spend the man’s money? In which case I say; if you are looking to pay for “it” there are easier ways than trying to pick up your sister’s wedding planner! It is times like this I say to myself “If this is a husband, I am so glad I don’t have one!” Give me Manolos, they’ve never let me down!
Oh and ladies if you’re wondering; of course I Googled him…he does run a billion dollar company:)
Write us about your favorite lines! We'd love to hear them!!
Today’s “4 the Luv” Fab Find:
Today's fab find is a Velvet Angels Black Leather Thong Wedge. It retails for $295, but is on Bluefly for $206. It's today's fab find because I think it is one sexy sandal!
http://www.bluefly.com/Velvet-Angels-black-leather-Bottomline-thong-wedges/cat20022/303554701/detail.fly
*Remember ladies, I am not in any way affiliated with this company or shoe. I am not endorsing the business, I am only admiring the shoe. It’s SOLEly for the luv!
The past month I received my fair share of horrible male pick up lines. There are two however that are especially note worthy. The first being “Every wedding I attend I make it a point to go home with someone, I was thinking this wedding it should be you”. Do you think that line had worked on some poor female at a previous wedding? How much alcohol would you need to ingest to think that was cute? I am all about using a wedding as a great place to network and meet people, but REALLY! Where do men get off thinking that a line like that could actually work? Maybe if he had laughed after saying it we could have all thought it was funny and moved on, but to hold a straight face and wait for a response is completely ridiculous. I just wonder if the roles were reversed, and I walked up to him with a line like this would he have said “cool let’s get out of here” or would he have thought I was a complete moron?
If you are awaiting my response it was simply “Do you live in town?” He said “Yes”. I then said “Sorry, our only chance would have been if I knew I would never run into you again”. I however, do give him props for getting straight to the point! I do like a man that can cut straight to the chase.
The next weekend’s wedding got even better. Now there is much to be discussed about this wedding. It actually deserves its own posting…maybe tomorrow. Amongst many crazy comments, at this wedding the pickup line was a classic! “Why won’t you talk to me? I run a billion dollar company…Google me!” Google Me…is he serious? Unfortunately, he was very serious. He could not understand that despite his wife and kids at home that I would not be interested in him and if for nothing else the fact that he runs a billion dollar company. Why would you want a woman to talk to you solely for this reason? Is the real question you are asking me not “why won’t you talk to me”, but “why won’t you spend my money”? If Googling him was the deciding factor, then wouldn't in fact my only motivation be to spend the man’s money? In which case I say; if you are looking to pay for “it” there are easier ways than trying to pick up your sister’s wedding planner! It is times like this I say to myself “If this is a husband, I am so glad I don’t have one!” Give me Manolos, they’ve never let me down!
Oh and ladies if you’re wondering; of course I Googled him…he does run a billion dollar company:)
Write us about your favorite lines! We'd love to hear them!!
Today’s “4 the Luv” Fab Find:
Today's fab find is a Velvet Angels Black Leather Thong Wedge. It retails for $295, but is on Bluefly for $206. It's today's fab find because I think it is one sexy sandal!
http://www.bluefly.com/Velvet-Angels-black-leather-Bottomline-thong-wedges/cat20022/303554701/detail.fly
*Remember ladies, I am not in any way affiliated with this company or shoe. I am not endorsing the business, I am only admiring the shoe. It’s SOLEly for the luv!
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