Oh, you have your nails done… “Aren’t you high maintenance?” What, you frequently get your hair done too…”You are so high maintenance!” You like designer labels…”High maintenance!” You don’t eat McDonalds…”Princess, you are so high maintenance!”
High Maintenance, High Maintenance, High Maintenance
Who decided that a woman who likes to take care of themselves deserves a negative name like high maintenance? Now suddenly taking care of yourself receives frequent negative comments. Gentlemen, we get our nails done so that our hands don’t look cracked and manly. We get our hair done so that we don’t walk around looking crazy. Yes, we like to look nice and we don’t eat McDonalds because if we did you would call us “obese” instead of “high maintenance”. These practices should not be considered “high maintenance”. We actually just simply get Body Maintenance.
Body Maintenance as defined by (ME) is the simple act of taking care of one’s self both physically and emotionally. This is similar to the way you have to wash your car, change the oil, and get regular tune ups. All things good require maintaining. How about we all be honest and admit that you actually appreciate your lady participating in these acts of body maintenance. You don’t actually want a girlfriend with rough hands and cracked feet. Would you prefer your wife’s hair to have split ends and roots? And we all know that you don’t want our butts to resemble a Big Mac.
And Ladies, you should understand this behavior of maintaining your body. Please do not participate in the insane accusations that a women who takes care of themselves has a problem. We are going to conclude that any woman who calls another high maintenance is the one who deserves the title. We’ll call you “jealous”.
Finally, by the way men, we also appreciate you participating in similar acts of body maintenance and we don’t call you names. We love it when you get haircuts. We appreciate you taking care of your hands and feet. We love it when you dress nice and prefer for you not to have a beer belly. So how about if we call it even and agree to simply take care of ourselves. The next time we come home from the salon or spa consider your alternatives and please, unless the name is “Beautiful” no name calling!
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ReplyDeleteI agree that women who take special care of themselves they are considered high maintenance. Majority of the men I know love it when I have manicured nails, toes, and flawless hair. I believe men refer to high maintenance women as hard to please. Many women are so caught up with image a man don't know how to please her. Personally, I don't believe I'm hard to please but come off a bit high maintenance with my style and demenor. I don't mind because if a man want he should come correct.
On the other hand, men who take care of themselves are called Metrosexual men. There are not homosexual but love the pampering that many women enjoy. I don't mind a metrosexual man. I prefer a man that takes pride in there appearance and comfortable with who they are.
Great topic...
Well Angela I think their is a very fine line between being high maintenance and enjoying the way you look, and that fine line is your attitude. If your doing the whole hair and nails done every week for reasons other than self-confidence and a general need to take care of yourself and look presentable then yes your high maintenance. Or, if you would rather get your hair and nails done twice a week instead of using the money to take care of yourself then yes your high maintenance... Example, everytime I invite a girl over to simply hang out at my dorm, or simply go out on a date, normally the first thing I hear is "Oh, yea I'll come but don't laugh at me, I dont have my hair done." To me thats not intimidating, it just shows a lack of self confidence. You mean to tell me your not as conmfortable coming over to my dorm in a pony-tail, then as you are in a roller-wra? Ur not saying that "Oh dont laugh at me, I didnt feel like showering", because that will be disgusting, and not only will I laugh at you, I will ask you to leave. But, I tell all of the young women that I am in cahutes with to YES!! make yourself presentable. Your not going to a nice restaurant with me wearing gym shorts or sweat pants, but your also not going to be all Gucci and Glossed up, but being rude as hell neither. Don't prep yourself up so much that your outside becomes so much more than whats inside. It's not fun to be around someone who is so shallow, but looks SOO good. Your basically going to become arm candy for a guy like me, and I'll only take you out to impress my friends, but I'll look for intellectual stimulation elsewhere, from a girl who can both look good, but also be intelligent and have a healthy conversation.
ReplyDeleteBack in October, me and my ex girlfriend were invited out to her parents house for a simple dinner. I told her I would be their by 4 oclock in order for us to get through mid afternoon traffic from those coming back from the UofL football game. So, I arrived at four and she looked ready. She had her shoes on, hair done, glasses,jacket and what not. So she looks in the mirror and says..OMG, I hate the way I look in glasses. I need to put make-up on etc etc. I had to inform her that she looks fine, and that we were just simply going to HER parents house to eat. Not a restaurant just HER parents. Not MY parents, but HERS. So an hour later, she's finally ready. Not only were we late, but I was highly aggravated at such shallowness. Needless to say, we broke up that night. Not neccesarily because she made me an hour late to a great dinner, but because underneath all that make-up and crap she had absolutely no personality. NONE!...(I gave her 4 months of my life)
With that being said I dont think its wrong for someone to keep themselves clean. Everytime I go out for a date, or to an occasion where I feel as if i should dress nicely, I shave, go get a haircut or shape myself up, iron and press my clothes and just present myself with class. But when it comes down to it, I'd rather someone get to know my insides, thoughts, and personality, other than my outside, because I'm alot more interesting than my appearence.
Trust me, most guys aren't thinking high maintenance women are hard to please, we think they are shallow. Their's just way to much more to life other than that, especially with a recession going on and all. Maybe a man doesn't want to spend his time "coming correct" to someone who only looks good and has no personality and it seemingly dumb as a box of rocks, because a quality gentlemen like myself is not only attracted to a girl/ woman physically, but is more attracted to her mentally.We used to have a slogan back at my high school that "the girlfriends only have to be presentable but the "shots" (the one night stands, one and dones have to be dimes...So what does that tell you??...I'll let you put those pieces together yourselves....) Basically, all the outside the body stuff, is superficial and can simply change with age and a few babies. Remember that.
Chris Golden.
I am a jeans, tee shirts, and crocs type of "woman" myself. Of course I am old and not really interested in trying to get a man. But, I am a diamonds type of woman too. Yep, old jeans, Bellarmine tee shirts (I normally get them free), my comfy crocs and a diamonds all about my hands, ears, arms, etc. Am I high maintenance?.... hell no
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