The M Word

I thought we would take this beautiful Thursday to have a brief discussion of the M word…Monogamy. According to the dictionary Monogamy is: mo⋅nog⋅a⋅my Spelled Pronunciation [muh-nog-uh-mee]
Use Monogamy in a Sentence
–noun
1. marriage with only one person at a time.

2. Zoology. the practice of having only one mate.

3. the practice of marrying only once during life.

After careful observation during my nights out, I am left questioning if it actual exists for my generation or can it all together be removed from the English dictionary? I time after time see people in relationships out flirting with people other than their spouses, am approached by married men, or see someone’s significant other leave and 5 minutes later they are snuggled up with someone else.

Has this type of behavior become acceptable? It now seems that monogamy may be the exception and possibly not the rule. Aside from marriage (I will always believe in the vows one makes before God), is it now understood that you may be dating multiple people at a time and because everyone is doing it it’s ok?

Let’s face it, this would never be a discussion in a relationship because everyone wants to believe that they are the one and only even though they may know they aren’t. It’s not as if you would come home and no babe I can’t tonight I have another date. But if you are both simply minding your own business and schedules does it now breathe different expectations to your relationship?

I spent my adult life as a serial monogamist focused on building perfect relationships. Now when I consider monogamy, I even consider jumping the fence. Is it possible it doesn’t make sense in dating to place all your “eggs in one basket”; as my grandmother would say? From personal experience when you spend your time building a relationship and the other person turns out to, put nicely, be a complete and utter disappointment is it better to just pull out another egg and keep it moving…Spread the love?

If in fact you take this approach to dating, are you then capable of creating a strong relationship with someone else? If you are used to dating multiple people then would it be difficult to turn the switch and suddenly become a monogamist for the right person? I am not sure that there is one rule to monogamy that all should follow, but I do think it makes for interesting conversation. Where do you stand on monogamy? Are you into one on one or do you prefer to play with a team?

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